If everyone would just mind their own business. ?If everyone would just stay in their own lane. ?If everyone would just stop being so negative. ?If everyone would just help people instead of talking about them. ?If everyone would just say what?s on their minds instead of being subliminal. ?If everyone would just stop half-way telling THEIR side and just tell the WHOLE?truth. ?If everyone would just support one another. If everyone would just keep it 100%. ?If everyone would just, well….ya know…. be like ME. ?
The world would be a much better place…!!
???Sounds familiar…!?!?!
We all have said this before.? Either out loud or to ourselves.? The issue here though is that even?YOU aren’t perfect and?YOU for sure have not made all the right decisions. When we ourselves are broken, we try to fit people into some perfect little world we conjured up.? We try to make them achieve the perfect personality that even?WE, ourselves can’t achieve.? We like to make everyone think, respond, handle situations, and act in a fairy tale manner.? Here’s the icing on the cake though:? We love to see people?PRETEND?like us.
And when they don’t, something is totally wrong with?THEM…!!
The issue with the pretending is that we create a false world with falsely, perfect people.? So then when they don’t live up to our standards, we do this thing called throwing them under the bus {yep, I will use this term a lot?because we live in a century where “throwing people under buses” is the new norm}.
?? Here’s a better one:?
We broadcast their imperfections so that it covers our own imperfections.? It keeps us from being the king/queen of bad choices.? Because “At least I didn’t do this or I didn’t do that.”??That’s what we say to justify ourselves & our choices while we crucify them for their poor choices.? We try to manipulate people into being the PERFECT, SWEET? “them”, while we continue to be the MESSY, PETTY, IMMATURE “us”.? ?You don’t believe me.!?!???
?? Well how about this:
- Have you ever posted a meme about a person being a fake friend, when you just got done gossiping about a whole other friend?
- Have you indirectly blasted a person or ppl on social media, but then went and had a whole rant about how other ppl are too scared to tag you or come to you directly about whatever it is they are mad at?
- Have you outed a person’s “sin” towards you, while you kept the broom by your bedside making sure your dirt don’t come from up under the rug?
?? Here is one I see often:
- Have you applauded and pacified YOUR FRIEND in their mess/wrongdoing, and turned around and shunned or publicly dissed a person you not cool with for doing the SAME thing your friend just did.!.!.!
Those were just a few to name, but by now I’m sure more situations have come to mind for you.? Life humbled me greatly & I will never forget it’s lessons.? I’m more careful now at not turning my nose up at people and situations I have never been in.? I’m even THAT MORE careful at giving grace/mercy to those who have been in certain situations that I have been in.? These lessons taught me that nobody (even Saved folks)?are exempt from making poor choices, no matter how good you think you are and no matter how many positive books, stats, or quotes you read.? In the end, we ALL fall short in various areas of our lives.
We should be so busy trying to find ways to help others with the same flaws as ours.? We should be building better relationships with people by being transparent about our mess-ups and by being non-judgmental towards their mess-ups.? You shouldn’t be so busy trying to expose other’s shortcomings to make yourself seem far above them, because even if you aren’t at the center of the stage; just remember that curtains always fall when we least expect them:? and pretty soon it will be time for your curtain to come down.
“And the second commandment is like the first: Love your neighbor as you love yourself” – Matt 22:39 ICB
It?s your TRAINING GROUND, so you choose whether you win or lose. – Brandy Yates
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I couldn’t refrain from commenting. Well written!
Thank you!
An important reminder that rather than fixating on others’ flaws, we need to focus on ourselves and redirect our energy inward since that’s the one thing we actually have the power to change.
Yes I totally agree!!!
True. Everyone has his own color. We must accept each person as he is. When we do, they’ll trust us enough to let them see the best of them.
I absolutely agree that once people feel safe with us, they will allow us in to see all of them.
I love this!! I was just thinking about how sometimes we are quick to pick others apart about things we do and say ourselves. It?s harder to look inside yourself than to look st others faults. Self reflection is key!
Bingo!!!! U summed it up very well and also just gave me another reality check.?…… I still find myself at times struggling with what you just said.
I love this! None of us are perfect, we all have growing to do. It?s so important that we?re able to identify our own weaknesses/areas for growth.
Thanks so much for sharing.
xo,
? ki?ara | itsallgoodsis.com
Thank you!!! And it sucks cause I’m still learning in this area, but I needed to share the revelation I received while going through it.
Wow!! This post is so truthful! I agree…don’t always worry about other people and what they are doing. And just get along. The world would be a better place if this happened!
Great Post!! Thanks for sharing 🙂
Thanks for reading it. I’m only slamming from experience. Sometimes I still struggle with this and I always end up getting reminders on why I need to stay humble & not judge others.
Self-reflection is important. Sometimes if we focus on ourselves, we will identify areas of concerns and work towards growth.
Oh myyyyyyyy you just struck a nerve. This is absolutely true and that’s the purpose of Conquering Relationships. I’m hoping I can share stories that will help us grow and mature instead of always looking to grow others. ?
Great lessons to be learned here! Loved it!
Thank you for reading!! ?. Glad you think so.
I feel this in so many ways! Great post!
Thanks for reading! ? Glad you can relate.
Girl, you better speak the truth. This world would be so much different if people followed these principles. Great article.
Thanks for reading! ?….. I still find myself at times having to get checked on this. We all are a with in progress. The goal is to stay humble and keep processing though. ?
Perfectly spoken without a doubt. .
Thank you! ?
A fascinating discussion is worth comment. I think that you need to write
more about this subject, it might not be a taboo subject but typically people don’t
discuss such issues. To the next! Best wishes!!
I’m all about personal growth and self-examination. You are right, this is not a popular subject but its a much needed topic of discussion. Maybe if people do more self-evaluation instead of pointing the blame everywhere else, then we would have more unity. I look forward to writing more blogs on topics like this. I appreciate your feedback.
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Hmm, it’s interesting here where you point out the ways we’re all hypocrites in some ways, and the ways we seem to indict ourselves and not be straightforward or transparent. There’s a lot of work we need to do!
I believe I will be writing more on this topic in the future. As I was writing this, sooooo many more scenarios came to mind. And some that myself was getting a whooping on some more. I definitely agree on your outlook on this!
Great post, a lot of this comes with maturity…well it is suppose to come with maturity.
You are exactly right. It comes with maturity, but most of us grow in age but not in maturity. Love your comment!
As we grow we should mature in all aspects of our lives, unfortunately many do not. We find that once we are done with high school all the garbage is done with only to find out that is not true. Our society talks a lot about bullying in our schools. Bullying takes place outside of schools and even in the work place. Yes, we need to not judge, love more, speak less and realize we are all humans here on a journey.
You just hit the nail on the head. Bullying definitely start outside of schools. And in today’s society alot of bullying happens on social media and we fail to realize it. Thanks for making that awareness so easy to understand.
Love this! We are all so quick to judge. All of us should strive to be more humble.
Yes! I most definitely agree. ?
I LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!!! I have to share!
Thank you!!!!!! Please do. It encourages me to know that my lessons are helpful & useful to my readers.
Bravo! This article is very well said. It’s true, who are we to make judgement upon others. We aren’t perfect. John 8:7 states is perfectly when it’s said he that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone. I am guilty of casting judgement upon others but over the past few years, I’ve learned to not be so quick to judge. The last thing I want to be is critical over ANYONE. Especially when I know that I’m not perfect. This article needs to go viral.
Thank you!!!! I have learned this lesson and believe that I am still learning it. I found myself in various situations where I have judged wrongly and did not even realize it until I was dwelling on the situations later on. I know I still have some growing to do in this area, but as I learn and grow I plan to share it all with my readers. Thank you for being transparent as well!
Nice blog Brandy Yates. And very true. I believe the content makes us take a second look at ourselves and examine the inconsistencies in our Behavior.
Honestly only some of us will actually examine ourselves and work on changing to become a more graceful person towards others, thanks for your feedback. My goal is to definitely get us to grow as individuals.
Yes! The world would be a much kinder place if we would all show one another a little bit of grace.
As much as we go through in life and chances we get, it’s funny to see the amount of grace we withhold from other people.